Posted in Relationship

Fake best friend

I’m only have two close friends, they are not acquainted, one of them is very special for me, we share the same value and we also love spirituality, we shared a lot, we laugh and cry together and have bitter and sweet memories together, and always cherish them.

I’m going to talk about my other best friend. I often doubt our friendship, we argued last night, which seems normal because friends supposed to argued a lot, but no, we are not normal, We never argued before, we were closed for five years but we never argued. And what she did to me last night was unthinkable.

 She talked to me to ask for advices, and I kindly and rather harshly give me my opinion which was the opposite of her point of view. She was in another city for a competition, she said that her colleagues did this and that to her that made her uncomfortable and she wanted to go home.

“No.” I said, “don’t do that, you will only make yourself such a loser, like you always did in high school, please don’t go home right now, just enjoy your time and ignore them…” And so on and so forth, I wasted my time to give her my opinion about what she is going to do next.

And then she replied “Okay, do you know how to ride a bus to go home from here?”

And then I was like, what the fuck?!!

She didn’t listen, of course she heard, but she didn’t take my advice into her consideration, and she made that too obvious to the point that I realized everything.

She never listened…

That moment made me flashback to so many advices I gave to her with all of my kind intention, that she never took what I said seriously, she never did what I told her to do when she asked for my opinion, what’s the point in asking, then?! She could have just do her things as she wish without waste my precious time to give her attentions that she didn’t deserve, I feel unheard, and begin to questioning this friendship.

She doesn’t need me, and I think I don’t need her either.

Maybe this is what they said about “Let go of things and relationships that no longer serve you”

I think I am too comfortable with this so called friendship that actually pointless and time and money consuming.

She didn’t reply to my previous message. Okay, great.

It’s hard for me, but I also don’t want to be in a fake and pointless friendship.

Posted in Thoughts

It’s easy to worry about things that not yet here.

Anticipation, sometimes I thought it only means to prepare for the worst, but I was wrong, it also means “I know the worst will come and I should do something about it”.

Or does it “Mitigating”?

Pfft… Mitigating? Well, I think that word suits my current condition. But surprisingly I didn’t feel as miserable as I used to feel, I’m feeling enjoying this thing, not that I like being emotionally tortured like a masochist, but, whining and crying and swearing around would never solve the problem.

I must admit that the fear is still there, the fear that what I did would never enough, or would bring me to a bigger problem. And I feel a little bit consumed with my own thoughts of planning, seems like I can’t find the best plan, so I just going to let it flow, let it be.

I feel better now. I can react better to every challenge that arrives. I think they’re right, I should face my biggest fear, embrace it, and it will dissolve.

Is fear an illusion, then?

Posted in Thoughts

Death

I never used alarm for years, because I felt terrible every time I woke up. So I let the nature wake me up. Wake up is easier than fall asleep, even though I was sleepy, I always want to read another page of a book or watch another video on YouTube, because I felt that I had a good time while doing that, I always want to wake up earlier but I hate to sleep early, but I know that I need to.

I am reaching a point of numbness in my life, every morning that I woke, I did not feel like I survive another day, I was just continuing the previous day, I did not start anew, and this make me feel miserable, because I feel stuck. It feels like when you drive in a highway with the same view for miles, you know you are moving but somehow you feel that you are not going anywhere.

I am not in a mood to meditate, and not into this spiritual anymore, but I know I should keep journaling.

Lately I’ve been thinking about death.

I watch videos about cremation, autopsy, decomposed human body, etc, which were scared me because I never have a nerve to witness such a cruel process. In a last novel that I read, I also found this topic where the character that should be dead because of cancer were finally alive, but the one who was in her best health dead in a car accident.

Make me think, what if I never reach the age that I am expected? What if I die in young age, never get married, had children, get a million dollar, and reach my dreams because of young-age-death?

What is really matter?

I am thinking about someone, I want to tell a guy how much I love him, this is the most important thing to me if I should die soon. Everything else does not matter.

Posted in Uncategorized

Take a deep breath

This is a little too much for a Saturday afternoon.

Where is my simple and monotonous job?

Well, recently I get a news that one of my customer’s goods were hold in the port because he reported the wrong report (a.k.a lying), and I made another mistake that lead to a cut of my next month salary, and to be honest I need a lot of money next month, I need to pay my debts, I need to go to my Dad’s house, I need to move out to another apartment, I have a date that I have been planning long ago, and my Boss’s birthday is next month.

Well, true that “if there are no peaks and valleys, the world would be flat”

But, is it have to be right now? I know that this is partly my fault.

O My God I can’t believe that I am procrastinating my job to spill the burden into a writing. whatever.

I wish that there would be something, I wish everything is going to be okay.

Posted in Dreams, Signs from the Universe

Recurring dreams

Last night was the second time I did Sleep Hypnosis to find my life purpose, and the second time I got a dream about High School, I do not have to wait for the third sequence in order to understand that it means something.

The first dream, I was in a class, and about to start my final year at high school, I said in that dream how insecure and anxious I am about the final exam.

The second dream, I was sitting on a final exam, I meet a teacher that also taught in a class at my previous dream. In real life, he was an English teacher that never even once taught my class, I was close to him because he was my instructor in Music club.

During the hypnosis, I did not hear what the narrator were saying, so I decide to hear it when I am fully awake, and only from the middle of the recording, but I could not find anything, everything is basically just a relaxation and imagining things.

I have several recurring dreams, and I eventually decipher their messages one by one and act upon in my real life. But this one is rather mysterious, is this has something to do with my future plans when I was in high school?

I have an amazing plan but I was too afraid to put it into action.

I think it’s time…

Posted in Love, Signs from the Universe

A Heartbreaking Message From the Universe

My Repressed Emotions

I plan to meet a friend at his birthday next month, and I plan to tell him my feeling towards him, that I repressed deeply inside me. I am afraid to be judged by him because of this.

I am a bisexual, nobody knows, just me and two best friends. I live in a homophobic society. I never fell deeply in love like this before, I have been in many relationships with women, never with men because he is the only guy in my heart, I never fell for another guy other than him.

In 2016, I was hanging out with him, we watched movie, had a dinner in a fast food restaurant, to me it was like a date, but I do not know what it was for him. But his eyes told me that somehow, he feel the same thing towards me, but it was not a good news, maybe he did not want to be with me even if he fell for me.

Years had passed, I did not talk to him anymore, I just sent him a happy birthday message last year, it’s broken my heart, and I never knew that this repressed feeling is not good for my psyche.

For more than a year, I often dreaming about large body of water, be it an ocean, a pond, a lake, a lagoon, or even a mud field, flooding city, etc. When I asked some friend, they told me that Water symbolize emotions.

I get that.
but the dreams keep recurring, and it bothered me a lot because I believe in the signs of the universe.

Yesterday I commented in a blog, asking a question about the water and my recurring dreams. They said that it is related to emotion, repressed emotions!

After that, I thought about him, and everything is getting clearer. This so called repressed emotion has affected me in so many ways, I feel stuck in my spiritual and emotional development, “I think there is something wrong with me but I don’t know what.”

Therefore, I made an Intention. At his birthday, I want to ask him out and be honest about my feeling, and tell him the truth, with zero expectation about how he will react. I want to be free, I do not want to be a slave to my own emotion.

When I write this on my smartphone with a tranquil mind, a song lyrics played on my computer screen.

“but it’s time to face the truth
that I’ll never be with you”

I think it is another sign from the universe, yes, sometimes the universe are telling me signs that I do not want to see or hear, and most of the time, in the past, I always ignore them and expect the universe to always send signs that please me.

But not today, I am grateful and thank the universe to tell me this, even though it is a heartbreaking sign.

I will prepare my heart, I have 40 days remaining.

Posted in Meditation

My Meditation Journey Part 4: The Price of Kundalini Awakening

“You must pay for everything in this world one way or another. There is nothing free except the grace of God. You cannot earn that or deserve it.” –Charles Portis–

Well, I hate introductions or prefaces, so here we go.

1. I need some validations, whether or not my experience is really an awakening.

But there is no validation, when I search other people’s experience regarding this awakening, the resemblance is minimal, they have very little things in common, I also joined Awakened Kundalini group (awakened, not awakening or wanna be) and realized that everyone has different experiences. So that, it is hard for me to found out if what I got was a real thing or just make belief.

Kundalini awakening is unique for everyone, this is a frustrating but also liberating fact.

2. It’s damn hot!

It is rather hard to explain the hotness, it is different, massive and sometimes painful, and they are coming every now and then to the point that I do not know the reason behind it, i think it just happened with no apparent reason.

It is not just a silly vibration that I usually got during meditation, it is real high temperature and I cannot get rid of it. some people even reported severe illnesses.

3. It turned your entire world in a chaos, literally.

Since the Kundalini is balancing everything, all of my repressed emotions were revealed, which were emotionally exhausting and mentally challenging, all of my resentment towards my stepmother, my jealousy to my high school friends, and any other negative feelings I tried so hard to conceal, I tried to meditate but had no avail. I just had to experience them one more time, feel the pain and let them go. It was not easy.

My spirituality goes like a roller coaster during my awakening, sometimes my psychic abilities are sharp, other time i felt like i lost all of my abilities, sometimes meditation feels boring.

4. Self doubt

Okay, now I am awakened already, yeaaay!!!

Now what?
is that it? that’s all? may be i am not awakened, maybe still awakening?

can I manifest what I really want?

wait, I can manifest my desires with or without Kundalini, remember The Secret?

I can develop my abilities without Kundalini

I can be anything without the help of this silly heat inside my spine.

does it really worth the risk?

what am I doing?

do I really know what am I doing?

now the excitement is over, should I start all over again?

what is the purpose of Kundalini after all?

what do I want it to do with my life?

Posted in Meditation

My Meditation Journey Part 3: Kundalini Awakening Meditation

This kind of meditation is so far THE HARDEST meditation I have ever did.

First thing first, if you are unfamiliar with Kundalini, it is a life force that everyone had inside them, and if this awakened, you can manifest everything you want with less effort (that is what I heard), you can reach your full potential, get anything you want in this world, in other word, Kundalini is a superpower.

Can people get fancy cars and nice houses and million dollars with Kundalini power?

No.

Because, to fully awaken this force, you need to detach yourself with material world, and if you work on it, you will not wanting these things anymore. Sounds tricky, right? You want to get a power to get everything that you want, but to do this you need to throw away these desires. Whatever.

There are three ways you can activate your Kundalini.

First way: you get it out of nowhere, suddenly have it without wanting it. Yes, it happens

Second way: Shaktipat. This is an instant activation by the Yogi, or a Kundalini Master.

Third Way: Kundalini Yoga and Meditation.

I could not connect with any Yogi, I did not know where they lived, must be far away in India or Tibet? So the third way is the only way to awaken my Kundalini. So, here we go.

My Methods

In short, Kundalini means rolled serpent, it resides in our body, under our backbones, somewhat between your genitalia and your anus. And to awaken it, it means to make it travel upwards through our backbones, to our head, and finally outside our head. If this explanation is not sufficient for you, please read it elsewhere because I want to focusing more in my method, not explaining the Kundalini itself J

To make the serpent moves, is not an easy work, even to be aware that it is there sleeping, also need an effort. So the first thing I did was, had a good relaxation and meditation until reach the tetha state, and focused on the location where the Kundalini was supposed to be.

REMEMBER! The intention is the key! the right intention will drive you towards the right result. And we should have zero expectation and not to be disappointed when we failed.

The first time I did this Kundalini meditation, the Intention was “I want to awaken my Kundalini”

And the first step was to found it, but it’s not there, I could not feel anything, and the serpent was always not there for the next few days, or weeks.

Before you do this, you need to understand (COMPREHENSIVELY) about Chakra System

A good glimpse or Introduction about Chakra system is not enough, there are specific meditation method and position for each chakra. Therefore, the idea is to remove every blockage in each chakra so the serpent could move.

Chakra blockage is not just an energy, but it relates to our everyday lives and how we deal with our problems. Like I said, I do not want to discuss the technical details, I want to focus on talking about my experiences. For further reading on Chakra blockage, I recommend this article (link below, but please skip it first and continue reading, lol)

https://blog.mindvalley.com/symptoms-of-blocked-chakras/

 The chakra blocking was cleared, issues are solved, and then …

And then it moved! During the meditation session, I felt the heat in my lower spine, I spent more than one hour every session, it moved very slowly, and sometimes it did not move at all, just stay still there, but at least the serpent is there.

Sometimes the Kundalini did not moved inside my spine, sometimes it was turned to my needed body parts, I remember the energy stuck in certain areas where the kidney is located, and then the heat was expanding! And It got hotter and hotter, but it felt pleasant, as if the force is healing my body. And after months has passed, the Kundalini reached my head.

How it affected me?

To be honest, I did not notice anything different. But somehow I also felt like a different person. The analogy is like when you rise your children and watch them grow everyday, you would not notice anything difference in them, but years after, your are aware that your baby child is now a teenager. The same thing happen with this, so I am not surprised with anything.

But I can compare my life before and after Awakened Kundalini.

  1. More awareness, I realized that everything is connected, the good and the bad are there for reasons.
  2. Less judgemental
  3. More grateful
  4. More peaceful
  5. Less worries
  6. Less stress
  7. The air is clearer, the rain is more cheerful, everything I saw and heard are more delightful
  8. Manifestation is become easier
  9. You get everything your heart wants, I did not get million dollars or material things (yet) because I did not want it (yet), and I believe everything happen for reason and everything has its own season, so I live in The Here and The Sacred Moment of Now, I am very grateful for everything that is here, and I cerish every moment, and welcoming to what is yet to come.
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Past Life Regression! Is that even a thing? Does it work?

(Warning! Contains spoiler)

At first I want to write this blog in a chronological order, start from how I found my spirituality and developing it, but I hate being retrospective, so I will just write everything that popped out of my head.

So, yesterday I was unintentionally clicked on a past life regression hypnosis video before I went to sleep, I love those kind of video and watch them (or hear them) nightly, I like guided meditation videos, binaural beats, and sleep hypnosis videos played on my phone while I’m going to sleep.

I clicked the video with zero expectation, as usual, but to my surprise, it has a great effect!

Honestly I was fall asleep after ten or fifteen minutes, so I did not pay attention to most of it, and I have no idea what is the narrator said when I was dreaming, but then suddenly I was awake, but with eyes still closed and hear the narrator that tried to wake me up and bring my awareness back, he asked me to move my fingers and such, and I felt my bladder was going to explode! I wanted to pee so bad, I hold it for awhile but could not take it anymore, so I opened my eyes, paused the video, go to the bathroom, just to felt disappointed because I did not peed, only little drops of urine.

So I went back to bed, resumed the video, fell asleep again, and then I was awake again and had an urge to pee again, but I ignored it and listen to the narrator, I forgot what he said.

After I was fall asleep again, I was awake again for the last time, and the same thing happened to my bladder, I did not know why. And the narrator told me to focus and release every past life memories (which I did not remember), and I felt a huge energy was shaking my body with great vibration, I released them!

But I do not remember any past life memories. And I was annoyed by the comments on that video that claim to be remembered their past lives. I think they were lying. Haha.

Finally, the narrator said that in the next few days, everything will begin to make sense to me, and I will remember something.

next time, I want to write about past life and my opinion about reincarnation.

Posted in Meditation

My Meditation Journey part 2 : Meditation for an Empath

There are so many methods designed specifically for certain purposes, but the principle is the same, that is “using imagination”, sound silly right? But it does not. It works pretty well, because when you imagining an energy in your body to move or do things in your favor, it is similar to demanding your energy to make things happen.

I am an Empath, (Empath is completely different with empathy, for those who do not know, an Empath is a psychic ability that allow a person unconsciously, or even automatically, experiencing other people’s emotion). I feel blessed by this ability, and God knows until when will this gift last in me. But sometimes being an Empath feels like a curse, because you can not pick your favorite emotion from other people and ignore the least favorable one, you just absorb everyone’s feelings, depression, anxiety, madness, anger, jealousy, suicidal, Oh God…, actually it did not affect me directly, it is not like I suddenly become suicidal when I encounter a suicidal stranger, but rather like… the feeling is contaminate me. Imagine the tranquil mind is like crystal clear water, it needs a great deal of effort to make your mind and psyche crystal clear water, and then suddenly strangers throw shit into your crystal clear water! I did not feel like shit, but I feel like clean water and shit at the same times, it is not a mind reading, just a sponge absorbing random liquid. Most of the times this is a blessing and very useful, but sometimes, you know, feels like shit.

So I jumped into a blog which dedicated to psychics, and in that blog there are so many articles contains rituals and meditations for specific psychic abilities, namely clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentient, telepathy, etc. too bad that I also forget the blog’s name, I really need that blog, the only thing I remember about the website is, it has a purple logo, with a person in a sitting meditation position on it.

The first meditation I learned is to close my empathy ability for a while, the process goes like this:

  1. Ask protection and guidance from God and spirit guides
  2. Meditate until you reach a relaxing beta-or-tetha state, you know how.
  3. Imagine that your being has holes that absorb people’s feelings
  4. Imagine there are so many hands made of light from your heart chakra, and each hand close one hole.
  5. End the session with a gratitude, thank God and your spirit guides.

Another method is too clean any impurities from your sentient or being, or aura, by imagining that you throw away any energy that is not yours, and retrieve your energy that you left behind elsewhere, and then pull away any impurities, just like that. Just imagining and believe that things will work out in your favor, but sometimes we are not sure what to imagine, and ended up let our mind wandering instead of healing ourselves, so it is recommended to follow the guidelines from more experienced practitioners.